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Bereavement articles
SLOW Statement on the Ockenden Report – Nottingham Maternity Review
The recommendation that Martha’s Rule must be embedded across all maternity services is welcome and will undoubtedly help families feel heard and taken seriously when they raise concerns. But it should never have had to come to this.
Fifteen Forever: Remembering Kian on Father’s Day
After eleven years without Kian, Father’s Day still doesn’t get any easier. I’ve learned it’s a day to be kind to myself and to be grateful for the fifteen years we had. We know we will never get over losing Kian: our Special K. We also know we have no regrets. We did everything as a family, and we know that we gave both of our boys a wonderful childhood.
The Space Where Grief Doesn’t Have to Be Edited
For nine years I have been talking about my son Freddie, who died aged one, in SLOW groups – first joining conversations as a bereaved parent, and now as a facilitator. But always Freddie’s Mum first.
A bereaved parent’s thoughts on ‘surrendering to the process’ of Ramadan and of grief
As Ramadan approaches, we asked one of our bereaved parents to describe what Ramadan is for them and how ‘surrendering to the process’ of both Ramadan and grief can be a healthy and healing.
A shared letter, from one bereaved Father to another
Nick Cave’s reply to a newly bereaved father on The Red Hand Files is a difficult and tragic read that has touched our hearts at SLOW.
Paul Laity asks: Can I forgive myself for my daughter’s death?
Paul Laity grapples with guilt over his daughter’s death and campaigns for Martha’s Rule
Rob Delaney’s new book ‘A Heart that Works’
In SLOW member Rob Delaney’s new book, he writes about the death of his son, Henry: ‘the heaviest pain in the world’.
The Guardian’s Merope Mills’ describes the mistakes that led to her daughter’s death
SLOW member, Merope Mills speaks of the “blind faith” she had in doctors and learned too late how to save her child life.
Grieving your child on Father’s day – Rob Delaney talks about his grief
On Father’s Day, Rob Delaney’s podcast will resonate with bereaved dads at SLOW and beyond.
Gill Mann – ‘A Song Inside’
Gill Mann, mother of Sam and author of ‘A Song Inside’, writes so beautifully about the life and death of her son Sam, the heart-break, the universal themes of parents’ grief, the senseless chaos, the world shattered, the intense beauty in nature, and the glimmers of hope.