Articles and resources
We’ve gathered below a list of articles, programmes and blogs which may be helpful to anyone who has lost a child or a sibling, or anyone trying to support a bereaved family to cope with life after their loss.
Articles by SLOW
My daughter died when she was seven. I still get waves of terrible grief today
Tim Whitworth’s article, published in The Telegraph, about the loss of Naomi and his experience of managing to continue through the grief.
He also writes about how he found help from Helen and Douglas House and started a support group for bereaved dads.
It's like being a member of a club that I didn't want to join
‘It’s like being a member of a club I didn’t want to join’: Reflections on a support group for bereaved dads explores dads’ experiences of grief and the impact of groups specifically set up to support them.
Learning to live with grief
‘We keep him close, always’: how I survived the loss of my teenage son
Seven years ago Thomas Harding’s 14-year-old son, Kadian, was killed in a road accident.
The more you love, the more you hurt... grief changes you
The silence surrounding parental bereavement is the subject of a thoughtful film A love that never dies. When film makers Jane Harris and Jimmy Edmonds lost their son Josh (22) , their way through it was to make a film that shines a spotlight on parental bereavement. More details here.
Actor Rob Delaney talks to Russell Howard about grief and his beautiful son Henry
Rob Delaney was interviewed by Russell Howard about his grief, returning to work and his beautiful memories of Henry as he approaches his one-year anniversary.
Jason Watkins: 'After the death of a child, work has more purpose'
In this article from the Telegraph published in 2015 Jason discusses returning to work and parenting after his daugter’s death.
The Language of Bereavement and Grief
Writer Michael Rosen explores the language of bereavement and grief on BBC Radio 4’s Word of Mouth as he talks to psychologists, teachers, hospice workers and children’s charities, and visits a Death Cafe.
What I learned after losing my teenage daughter.
Writer and blogger, Jaqueline Dooley, shares what she has learned about grief and loss almost three years on from the loss of her 15-year-old daughter, Ana, to cancer.
How Jason Watkins learnt to live after the death of his tiny daughter from sepsis
An interview from April 2018 with our patron, Jason Watkins talking about life after the death of his daughter Maude.
Falling pregnant after the death of my son saved me from grief.
Blogger Elena Davies talks about the experience pregnancy and motherhood after the death of her son.
A Mother’s Chorus: Grieving a Child on Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day can be particularly painful for bereaved mothers. ‘What’s Your Grief?’ article offering collective wisdom from bereaved mothers who understand the loss of a child.
Jenni Thomas podcasts on losing a child
Guardian Interview: Jayson Greene: ‘Trauma is a rip in your understanding of the universe’
Interview with Jayson Greene in the Guardian author of Once More We Saw Stars published on 16 May 2019 by Hodder & Stoughton. The book is a memoir about life and grief after the loss of his young daughter in a freak accident in 2015.
When feeling ok feels wrong
Another amazing ‘What’s your grief?’ article talks about how grief and the continuing relationship with your child evolves over time.
The Death of a Child. The Grief of the Parents: A Lifetime Journey
A document developed by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Health Resources and Services Administration, Maternal and Child Health Bureau with the National Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS)/Infant Death Resource Center discussing how parents address and live with grief.
Physical and Psychological Effects of Grief
What the Death of a Child Does to Parents, Psychologically and Biologically
This article explores the neurological and biological changes, as well as the depression and destabilisation of the family, that may be experienced by those who are left behind after a child dies.
How does grief cause physical pain?
Words like “heartache”, “hurt” and “pain” are often used to describe emotional trauma. But people affected by grief often say they experience them as concrete physical sensations. An article b
When Grief Gets Physical: dealing with physical grief symptoms
Article from What’s Your Grief in July 2018 on the physical symptoms of grief, such as fatigue, forgetfulness, lack of focus and headaches, and how do deal with them.
How others deal with bereaved parents
SLOW member Rob Delaney talks to Russell Howard about grief and his beautiful son Henry
The lovely Rob Delaney was interviewed by Russell Howard about his grief and his beautiful memories of Henry as he approaches his one-year anniversary.
Rob talks about how bereavement groups can support parents that have lost a child and about how to talk to bereaved parents.
What do you say to a friend who's lost a child? I should know by now.
“A parent who has lost a child has already endured the worst – nothing you can say would make it worse.”
Hadley Freeman with some advice on what to say, and not say, to your friend who is coping with grief.
What should you say to someone who's lost their adult child?
Jane Wessman, whose son Billy died when he was aged 44, talks on Woman’s hour about how you can support a mother when her adult child dies.
Friends who cross the road to avoid you because you’ve lost a child
Christine Lord’s son Andrew, died from Variant CJD ten years ago at age 24.
She talks here about how society struggles to confront the reality of parental loss.
SLOW supports children and young people after the death of their brother or sister through our SLOWsibs groups.
A moment that changed me - the death of my sister and the grief that followed
A moving account my Emma Dawson about the grief she experienced following the death of her younger sister, Lucy, from cancer at the age of 32.
25 Children's Books That Explain Death And Grief To Kids
To aid parents when talking with their kids about death and grieving here is a list of 25 children’s books that tackle the subject.
A Part of You Will Be Forever Lost After Losing a Sibling
A thoughtful article on surviving grief after the death of a sibling and how to carry on as ‘the surviving child’.
Siblings & Grief: 10 Things Everyone Should Know
An article by Dr. Christina Hibbert on the profound impact of sibling loss, based on the personal experience of losing two sisters, and what people should be aware of regarding sibling grief. Dr. Christina Hibbert is the author of This Is How We Grow, Who Am I Without You, and 8 Keys to Mental Health Through Exercise.
Parenting after the death of a child
Talking to Kids About Death and Grief: 10 Comprehensive Tips
There is no script when it comes to talking to your children – each child and every situation is unique. Here is a thoughtful article from What’s Your Grief with some considerations and tips on how to how to approach these important conversations with your kids
Couples and grief
How to salvage a marriage after the loss of a child
An article from July 2018 discussing how men and women differ in their experience of grief and how husbands and wives can work through their pain together.
Tragically, I know the impact losing a child has on your marriage all too well
Father, Ben Pullen, talks about the different paths that he and his wife, Sarah, took in their grief following the death of their 11 year old son, Silas.
A Mighty Boy – A mother’s journey through grief by Sarah Pullen is now available.
The Hard Truth About Staying Married After Losing a Child
Child Bearing Loss
10 Things you need to know when someone's baby dies
In the light of the response on social media to the announcement about the loss of their son by Chrissy Teigen and John Legend, Rachel Lewis gives some advice on how to respond when someone’s baby dies.
Rachel is a respected voice in the baby-loss community and founder of Brave Mamas a support group for women grieving the loss of a child.
How I grieved for the much-loved daughter I lost before her birth
A personal account of loss and grief from the Guardian’s Devika Bhat.
Almost two years after giving birth to her baby at six months, Devika talks about this rarely discussed subject and the challenges it brings, including the trauma of giving birth.
‘In my head I was already a mum and then suddenly I wasn’t’
According to a new study, a third of women experience PTSD after losing a baby in early pregnancy.
I am a mother without a baby
In the UK, an average of nine babies a day are stillborn.
BBC journalist Fiona Crack became pregnant with a baby girl, but her waters broke early and her daughter died.
This is her story of a year of grief and healing and of five extraordinary women who shared her experience.
My baby died. Please ask me his name
In this article Elle Wright, author of Ask Me His Name: Learning to Live and Laugh Again After the Loss of My Baby, talks about coping with life after the death of her son Teddy at three days old in 2016.
You can also hear Elle talking about her experience on Woman’s Hour (28.55)
Elle also writes a blog about learning to navigate life after loss.
New law to support families who suffer the loss of a child – what you need to know
The details of a new law giving paid leave to workers suffering the loss of a child have been set out by the Government.
The Parental Bereavement (Pay and Leave) Act, expected to come into force in 2020, entitles bereaved employees two weeks’ leave and statutory pay.
It will also give the same rights to those who suffer a stillbirth from 24 weeks of pregnancy.
Child burial fees waived: What is the Children's Funeral Fund
A Children’s Funeral Fund has been established in England after Theresa May announced child burial fees were to be waived.
Families grieving the loss of a child through death or stillbirth are to be given up to £2,000 to help cover funeral costs, under a new government scheme.
For the full government guidelines read more here.
Other bereavement charities and organisations
At SLOW we recognise that some bereaved families may require additional support so we’ve put together a list of links to other UK bereavement charities and organisations