SLOW has two runners, Annabelle Williams and James Galilee, signed up for the Royal Parks Half Marathon on Sunday 14th October 2018. Please please support these fantastic people to raise funds for SLOW!
Annabelle’s fundraising page
Annabelle’s fundraising page
For many parents coming to our support groups, one of their first questions is ‘will it always feel like this?’. It was definitely one of my overriding questions in the early days after my daughter’s death that I directed at Nicola and Susie, the facilitators at my first SLOW group. I wanted to know if it would get better – surely I couldn’t feel like this forever and I didn’t think my body could even survive such physical heartache?
I can clearly remember Susie saying – ‘it does get better but it doesn’t “get better” ’ and now eight years on I know how right she was.
The reality of grief is that it often stays with you until the day you, yourself, die. For those who think of grief as being all negative emotion, I can see where this may seem unmanageable, but rest assured the impact of grief changes over time. As you change your relationship with grief – by changing how you respond to, cope with, and conceptualize grief – you will likely also find hope and healing. If you think about it, grief is one instance where there is a strong benefit to accepting its ongoing presence in your life because doing so creates more room for comfort, positive memories, and an ongoing connection with the person who died.
SLOW support groups are here for bereaved parents weeks, months or even years after the death of a child. And I know, personally for me, that in the early days it was so important to understand from others further along how the grief for a lost child evolved.
For more information on our forthcoming groups click here
SANDS carried out a survey of more than 2,500 bereaved parents and concluded that most employers did also not offer support.
The BBC Article says:
Dr Clea Harmer, chief executive of Sands, said: “Sadly, the death of a baby is not a rare event but too often, bereaved parents are faced by a wall of silence because people around them, family, friends, and colleagues, are lost for words.
“Death is never an easy subject and when a baby dies it is even harder to talk about.
“But finding the right words at the right time can really help to support bereaved parents and families when they need it most.
“Not everyone will be ready to talk about their bereavement – but simply saying, ‘I’m so sorry,’ for example, can really help.”
Dr Harmer added: “For grieving parents, returning to work may be a difficult step but the workplace can be a vital source of support.”
Unfortunately, this too has often been the story for bereaved parents at SLOW, although we also know there are some sympathetic employers out there. Bereaved parents very often don’t get anywhere near the level of support they need to cope.
SLOW support groups are here for bereaved parents weeks, months or even years after the death of a child. For more information on our forthcoming groups click here