Need a fitness challenge? We’d love you to run and fundraise for SLOW.
We have a number of places for the Royal Park’s Half Marathon in London on 10th October 2021. The stunning 13.1 mile route takes in the capital’s world-famous landmarks on closed roads, and four of London’s eight Royal Parks – Hyde Park, The Green Park, St James’s Park and Kensington Gardens. Registration is free for each place with a minimum fundraising target or £450 per runner.
For more information about the Royal Parks Half click here.
Father’s Day is one of the many days that the loss of a child feels even more profound. Although as bereaved parents are keenly aware, a child’s absence is felt every day.
There isn’t a day that goes by that we do not think about our absent child. Regardless of the circumstance of their deaths, we miss them deeply.
In this podcastfather, Rob Delaney, talks about losing his son Henry and his ensuing grief. Like so many other bereaved parents he knows that there’s no getting over the loss of a child, it’s just a case of feeling the full force of the pain and getting through it:
“I think it’s really important to acknowledge it’s going to be a real nightmare for a good long while, and you’re going to cry, and you’ll probably puke sometimes. And I know that’s not the sun will come out and everything’s going to be fine.”
And what has worked for Rob has been speaking to other bereaved parents:
“The most helpful thing for me has been other bereaved parents. Because when you come together, more useful than any of the words that anyone said to me would be if I saw a parent whose child had been dead longer than mine had, and I saw that they were able to tie their shoes. Was their shirt tucked in? Basic functions– just watching them pick grapes off of a stem and eat them. And I thought if they can do that, then I’ll be able to do that one day, hopefully.”
Be kind to yourself on Father’s Day and if you need support the SLOW support groups are open to all that have lost a child and parents can come at any time after the death of their child. For times and dates of forthcoming SLOW support groups link here.
It’s volunteer week and it’s been a really challenging year at SLOW with the pandemic and we’d like to thank our many, many special volunteers who help SLOW run in so many valuable ways.
We like to give a shout to these very special people who donate their time freely with a passion and commitment for the work we do to support bereaved families:
Susie, Nic and Tim – our expert bereaved parent facilitators
Liz and Maria – our welcoming Wednesday group volunteers
The wonderful SLOWsibs volunteers – Lisa and Laura
Our new SLOWsibs 18+ volunteer facilitator, the lovely Michael
One of amazing supervisors, Steve
Ben who kindly verified our accounts last year
Millie, Geena and Lizette from Herts Uni who are working with us to evaluate our support services
We’d also like to thank those who offered to work for free during the pandemic – thank you Clara
And finally, our trustees who worked tirelessly over the last year, Pippa, Tim, Kieran, Andrew, Sara, Fin, Samara and Helen
A quote from one of our lovely volunteers:
Walking into a room of bereaved parents for the first time was for me was like finding an oasis in a desert. I was with others who understood completely how I felt. It gave me strength to carry on. As the years have gone by I try to help SLOW regularly in small ways each week because I feel so passionately about its work. SLOW was and is still my lifeline of which I am proud to be a part.
We whole-heartedly appreciate the time and support you have dedicated to SLOW over the last year.
After over a year of Zoom support, some of our groups are returning to face-to-face meetings and we’re so looking forward to seeing our bereaved families – both new and old members.
We’ll be starting with our Wednesday North London bereaved parent support group that will return to its first face-to-face meeting on Wednesday 19th May 2021. These groups will run socially distanced and super safely, following all the current government guidelines. All face-to-face group participants will be advised ahead of the meetings the guidelines that they will need to follow including track and trace etc.
Our next SLOWsibs workshop for children aged 6-15 years, on 10th July will also run in person – we’re so looking forward to seeing our amazing sibs there.
Naturally if you have any COVID symptoms please do not attend the face-to-face groups. For symptoms of COVID check here
Still apprehensive about face to face?
We know that some of you are apprehensive about returning in person to groups, so going forward SLOW will run a regular Zoom weekly daytime group and a Zoom monthly evening bereaved parents group too.
Our weekly Zoom meeting for bereaved parents launches Monday 17th May 2021 with our lovely bereaved parent facilitators – Erica and Susie.
Our SLOWsibs 18+ meetings for bereaved adult siblings will remain running via Zoom, every other month.
Please see our calendar for all the dates of our forthcoming meetings and if you are new to SLOW and need support please do get in contact with us via the contact form page.
Losing a child is a devastating experience and for many of us it was hard to find the right support at the right time. SLOW has been and is a lifeline for so many of us. SLOW has grown from Nic and Susie meeting round a kitchen table to the charity it is now.
We want hear from our members about their experiences of coming to our bereaved parent support groups and being part of SLOW, so we are working with Geena Saini and Millie Witcher, two students from the University of Hertfordshire.
Your feedback and views will help us understand how our support helps you, so we can make improvements to how we run our groups as well as plan our next steps as an organisation.
Millie and Geena will be running a number of 90-minute focus groups via Zoom and we want these groups to represent a range of views from long term members, newly joined, monthly or weekly members but also those who don’t attend anymore, all views are welcome.
And, if you’d prefer to share your views privately, they will also be holding a small number of telephone interviews.
They plan to record the sessions but please be assured that all views will be anonymised.
If you are interested in taking part in either the focus groups or the interviews, or if you would simply like to know more about the research, please contact Kelly Carter at email@example.com by Friday 4th June. She’ll then be able to forward your details onto Millie and Geena who can provide you with further information.