Beautiful words from Clara Francis – our bereaved parent facilitator:
It’s National Grief Awareness Week this week – a week that aims to normalise grief and get the nation to talk about their own losses.
This is my beloved daughter Maude – she died when she was was two and a half years old, very suddenly, to Sepsis. I talk about my own grief a lot. It is a part of me now…it has burrowed through my skin, sunken into my blood, plunged through my veins, snuck into my bones and subsequently forever altered my DNA…my grief knows no bounds. It is a massive scary beast that can lay dormant for days and weeks, a constant nagging hum and then unexpectedly, sometimes with a trigger sometimes without, simply smash me in the face with memories, longing, sadness, ‘what ifs’.
We as a nation MUST be able to talk about Death without fear…by talking about it, it releases us.
My brilliant friend, Rob Delaney, was on the Radio 4’s Today Programme talking about the death of his beloved son Henry 🕷….it was so very VERY beautiful – I encourage everyone to have a listen… He talked about how he loves his living children all the ‘better’ since Henry’s death, as he has since come to the realisation that ALL his children are merely “temporary gatherings of stardust” none of them will be here forever, but they are here NOW…. how beautiful is that?? So don’t be scared to talk about your grief – if people can’t handle it that’s THEIR problem not yours….
And here’s the link for Rob on Radio 4 – https://www.instagram.com/p/CIiSuEnlpmr/
It’s Baby Loss Awareness Week, a week for raising awareness about pregnancy and baby loss and also a time to reflect and remember our lost children.
Baby Loss Awareness Week culminates in the ‘Wave of Light’ at 7pm on Thursday 15th October. We’ll be thinking of you and all your beautiful children – young and old this week.
And here’s a few articles that we’ve stumbled across that are particularly pertinent this week (and after):
’10 things you need to know when someone’s baby dies’ from Scary Mommy
‘How to talk to children about miscarriage and stillbirth’ from What’s Your Grief
There’s also a range of baby loss articles on our articles page.
The Good Grief Festival is a free three day online event with lots of interesting and inspiring speakers and sessions. Check it out at Good Grief Fest
Bereaved parent Gill Mann will be speaking. Her beautiful book about her son, Sam’s story “A Song Inside” will move and resonate in every bereaved parents heart and will soon be available in SLOW’s libraries for the day that we are able to resume face to face working.
Currently we are running all groups via Zoom, please do get in touch if you would like to come to one of our groups, you will find a warm online community who will welcome you. For details of our forthcoming support group dates click here.
Would you like to play a role in shaping SLOW’s future? We are currently looking for trustees with skills and experience in the following areas:
- Strategic planning and charity development
- Charity law and compliance
The trustees would assist with the development of SLOW’s strategic plan and vision and help increase the charity’s impact and influence. The applicants should be committed to helping bereaved families and have significant governance experience.
For more information and details of how to apply click here.
It’s a difficult time out there for small charities like SLOW and today we give thanks to our generous and flexible funders.
When the pandemic hit, our grant and trust partners (new and existing) stepped up and we’ve received over £60,000 in the space of six months.
Our funders recognise the importance of our bereavement support services – a lifeline to many – and the creative ways in which we continue to support bereaved parents even during lockdown.
So big thank yous to:
- The Lotteries – Reaching Communities
- The Coronavirus Community Support Fund (HM Government and the Lotteries)
- The London Community Response Fund
- The John Armitage Charitable Trust
- The CAF Emergency Fund
- Islington Council Community Chest
- Local Initiatives Fund (Islington Council)
- Waitrose Community Matters
We are overwhelmed with gratitude and truly thankful for their support during this difficult time.