SLOW is actively looking to recruit a facilitator to move the organisation to its next level.
The job description for the new role is detailed below. Should you wish to apply please send your CV and a covering letter of no more than two A4 pages describing your interest in, and suitability for, this role to email@example.com. The deadline for applications is Friday 26th April 2019
SLOW, a charity supporting bereaved families, is actively looking to recruit a Facilitator to move the organisation to its next level
Based in London, SLOW has offered emotional and practical support to bereaved families that have lost a child in any circumstances for over eleven years. Our unique approach to working with parents and siblings is highly regarded by our members and professionals and we have recently won the Queen’s Award for Voluntary Service.
Our work is centred around regular support groups for bereaved parents and quarterly creative workshops for bereaved siblings. Since SLOW began we have drawn on our own experience as bereaved parents and built a community that supports itself.
SLOW currently runs weekly daytime support groups in North and South London, as well as monthly evening support groups in North London. Our North London (Islington) support group is currently thriving and therefore due to demand we are planning to open another weekly daytime group in this area.
Purpose of role
To co-facilitate an existing weekly support group for bereaved parents and to assist with the setting up and the ongoing facilitation of a further weekly support group. Both groups will be based in North London. You will also communicate with bereaved parent members outside of the groups, attend supervision and meetings. This is a self-employed, sessional role that will require travel to support group venue(s) and work from home.
This role will require attendance at our support group venue(s) in North London. Other duties will be carried out at home – the facilitator must have access to a computer and telephone. SLOW will pay direct expenses relating to the role (e.g. telephone, broadband, and stationery charges) and travel where agreed.
Ten hours per week during school term time (39 weeks per year) @ approximately £20 per hour with the potential for more hours.
SLOW is looking for an exceptional individual for this exciting role to:
Work with the founder, business development manager and trustees to help develop and deliver the vision and strategies of SLOW
Set up and facilitate a new weekly daytime support group in North London (exact location and day / time to be confirmed)
To co-facilitate the existing daytime weekly support group in Islington on Wednesdays (11am – 12.30pm)
Attend debrief sessions, clinical supervision and write reports on group meetings
Provide direction to volunteers as required
Correspond with bereaved parents by telephone and email to guide them into the groups or signpost them to other services
Attend networking meetings and presentations of SLOW work as necessary
Attend regular team meetings
A bereaved parent of at least 3 years, please note that this is essential for the role.
Group facilitation experience in a formal setting – i.e. health, self-help, well- being etc.
Commitment to SLOW’s open and reflective way of working with parents, embodying a kind and compassionate stance
Excellent listening skills
Good telephone, IT and communication skills
Personal experience as a participantattending an organised support / self-help experiential group – e.g. bereavement support group, group facilitation training, church group, etc.
An interest in the principles, literature and experiences of grieving for a child or sibling and a commitment to exploring how this can be used to help bereaved parents and families
Please apply by sending a CV and covering letter of no more than two A4 pages describing your interest in, and suitability for, this role to firstname.lastname@example.org.
The deadline for applications is COB Friday 26th April 2019
SLOW member, Rob Delaney, gives a truthful and powerful portrayal of Henry’s terminal illness and the horrific heartbreak that followed his death and the effect on his family. It’s a truly beautiful article that is brave and honest. For the full article click here, to access the article you can register for free (or subscribe) to the Sunday Times.
Whenever anyone asks Delaney how he is, they tend to add hastily, “Oh my God, that’s a stupid question.” No, it isn’t, he tells them — “If you’re ready to hear the answer. The answer is my heart hurts, OK? I had trouble getting out of bed today, and I cried before I got up. And then I had a cup of coffee, played with my other kids, came and said hello to my wife, and then I started to feel better. Then I got sad again. So I love that question. I tell people, I’m a balloon that is filled almost to the point of bursting, and when you bring up my dead son, it’s like you’ve let a little out. It’s like a gift.”
Are people ready to hear that answer? “Not everybody, but I don’t care. I’m an ambassador from the f****** other side now, and I feel a bit of a responsibility, being in the public eye, to show people what grief looks like.” He pauses for a moment to reflect. “It’s just so weird to me how we deny grief, how we shut it out.”
In this moving article Rob also talks about the SLOW groups and the support they have given him and his family:
We live on a lunar outpost now. Except on this lunar outpost, there are other [bereaved] parents. There are good people here, but we are different.” Delaney and his wife attend a group for bereaved parents. “Which is just such a sacred experience. The amount they help us is truly staggering. And I didn’t have to be coaxed into it, because I knew the power of sitting around in a group and talking about a problem.”
SLOW understands that is it vitally important for bereaved parents to verbalise the pain, talk about what happened, share their child and ask questions – sometimes over and over – with other parents that understand. SLOW support groups are here for bereaved parents weeks, months or even years after the death of a child. All our groups are facilitated by bereaved parents. For more information on our forthcoming groups click here
Actor, Rob Delaney and his wife, Sarah, lost their 2-year-old son, Henry, in January 2018. Here he writes honestly and poignantly about Henry’s illness and treatment.
Henry’s tracheotomy tube prevents him from speaking, so I haven’t heard him make a peep for over a year. My wife recently walked in on me crying and listening to recordings of him babbling, from before his diagnosis and surgery. I’d recorded his brothers doing Alan Partridge impressions and Henry was in the background, probably playing with the dishwasher, and just talking to himself, in fluent baby. Fucking music, oh my God I want to hear him again. Now he has a foam-cuffed tracheotomy tube in his beautiful throat, rendering him mute.
The post was originally intended to be part of a book for the parents of sick children:
The reason I’m putting this out there now is that the intended audience for this book was to be my fellow parents of very sick children. They were always so tired and sad, like ghosts, walking the halls of the hospitals, and I wanted them to know someone understood and cared. I’d still like them to know that, so here these few pages are, for them. Or for you.
But I can’t write that book anymore because our family’s story has a different ending than I’d hoped for. Maybe I’ll write a different book in the future, but now my responsibility is to my family and myself as we grieve our beautiful Henry.
Many of the bereaved parents at SLOW have nursed their children through painful illnesses and treatment. After their children die some are lost without the routine of hospital admissions and caring responsibilities of looking after their seriously ill child.
SLOW welcomes all bereaved parents irrespective of whether their child was an adult or a baby, or the varying circumstances in which they died. And though circumstances surrounding the deaths of our children differ widely, parents find a way to share their pain and grief.
Should you need bereavement support following the death of your child please contact us. Click here for further details of how to get in touch.