Grieving your child on Father’s day – Rob Delaney talks about his grief

Grieving your child on Father’s day – Rob Delaney talks about his grief

Father’s Day is one of the many days that the loss of a child feels even more profound.  Although as bereaved parents are keenly aware, a child’s absence is felt every day.

There isn’t a day that goes by that we do not think about our absent child. Regardless of the circumstance of their deaths, we miss them deeply.

In this podcast father, Rob Delaney, talks about losing his son Henry and his ensuing grief.   Like so many other bereaved parents he knows that there’s no getting over the loss of a child, it’s just a case of feeling the full force of the pain and getting through it:

“I think it’s really important to acknowledge it’s going to be a real nightmare for a good long while, and you’re going to cry, and you’ll probably puke sometimes. And I know that’s not the sun will come out and everything’s going to be fine.”

And what has worked for Rob has been speaking to other bereaved parents:

“The most helpful thing for me has been other bereaved parents. Because when you come together, more useful than any of the words that anyone said to me would be if I saw a parent whose child had been dead longer than mine had, and I saw that they were able to tie their shoes. Was their shirt tucked in? Basic functions– just watching them pick grapes off of a stem and eat them. And I thought if they can do that, then I’ll be able to do that one day, hopefully.”

Be kind to yourself on Father’s Day and if you need support the SLOW support groups are open to all that have lost a child and parents can come at any time after the death of their child.  For times and dates of forthcoming SLOW support groups link here.

 

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Grieving your child on Fathers’ Day – article from What’s Your Grief

Grieving your child on Fathers’ Day – article from What’s Your Grief

Father’s Day is one of the many days that the loss of a child feels even more profound. Although as bereaved parents are keenly aware, a child’s absence is felt every day.

The amazing blog ‘What’s your grief? asked fathers to share their Father’s Day grief and their responses will resonate with bereaved dads at SLOW and beyond.

Here’s the full article and a selection of their responses:

You will always have that open space in your soul, for that’s where you store the memories.

 

You will never truly be done grieving; you will learn to live and cope.

 

There will come a day when you will look back and see the goods before the bads.

 

I am an amputee, a father without a son.  THAT is my new normal.

 

I may look the same as before Kylie died but I’m a different man altogether.

 

The weight of loss never goes away, we just learn to carry it.

And for the non-bereaved, how should you acknowledge Father’s Day?  Our advice from SLOW is if you know a grieving dad, pay them a visit or make that phone call to tell them that you are thinking about them and their child.

Be kind to yourself on Father’s Day and if you need support the SLOW support groups are open to all that have lost a child and parents can come at any time after the death of their child.  For times and dates of forthcoming SLOW support groups link here.

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